When I was pregnant with my first son, people asked, “Is it a girl?”
When I was pregnant with my second son, they said, “You want a girl, right?”
When I was pregnant with my third son, they said, “Oh wow, three boys, you poor thing.”
Please. Just stop.
As a matter of fact, I was hoping the first would be a boy, so if there were a daughter later she would have a BIG brother. The second pregnancy, I was hoping my son would have a brother to be best friends with. After two easy boy pregnancies, deliveries and babyhoods, a third boy was a welcome surprise. And I already have a name picked out for the fourth, if that is where our lives take us.
I get so irritated when I think about how people specifically asked me if I was having a girl. I shake my head when I hear people say, “I really hope it’s a girl.” And I get annoyed when I hear women say they cried when they found out they were having a BOY … especially when it’s their first child. (I do understand there are pregnancy hormones involved, but still.)
Why do we moms put so much interest and hope into girls? Is it because we are girls? Is it because the clothing section is 4 times larger? Do people just consider girls to be better? I hope not!
Obviously, I don’t have any girls to compare, but I’m here to say …
Little Boys Are Twice As Nice! Here’s Why:
BECAUSE There Are Not As Many Clothes To Choose From
Yes, the dresses and tights and leggings and hair bows and tutus and shoes and jewelry are precious, but that can also get expensive. Pocket the money you would have spent on clothes and accessories, and save it for all the food you will need later in the teenage years (and before they even get to be teenagers).
No Horrible Hormones and Much Less Drama
I remember what it was like to be a teenage girl, and what I put my mother through. NO THANK YOU!
They Protect Their Siblings
I am amazed, even at 4 years old, how much my older son loves and cares for his brothers.
NO Bra Shopping and No Period Talks
I personally never feel comfortable with that sort of talk, and I feel lucky I won’t need to have these conversations with my boys.
The Groom’s Family Isn’t Traditionally Expected to Pay for Weddings
Wedding are expensive, and it’s nice knowing we don’t HAVE to pay for them. But I do have to say I get a little sad thinking I probably won’t be able to see my husband walk any daughters down the aisle or watch any daddy-daughter dances.
They Love Their Mamas
There must be something to the sayings “Mama’s Boys” and “Daddy’s Girls.” I am proud to say I have three mama’s boys.
Peeing on Trees
This is absolutely my favorite part of having boys. There have been countless times we have been at the soccer fields and one of my sons just has to pee. Instead of walking the quarter-mile to the restroom (and dragging the other two along), we just have to find the nearest tree!!!!
I am not saying boys are better than girls (or vice versa), or that girls should never be hoped for. I often think how I would love to have a girl, to put her in the cute tutus and pig tails and dance classes. But then I hear about the hormones and drama very early on, and I think maybe I will stick with my three easy-peasy boys.
Let’s just make sure we don’t put baby girls on a higher pedestal than baby boys. And please, think twice before asking expecting moms, “Are you having a GIRL?”