I have an 11-year-old and a 22-month-old. Somehow, during the nine years between having my son and daughter, I forgot how challenging toddlerhood is.
Just this morning my toddler climbed on the kitchen table, poured a cup of water all over the table and floor (thankfully it was just water), spat apple juice down my shirt at the grocery store, helped herself to fruit from the refrigerator, dumped out and stood on top of her toy box, played with the safety cover on the electrical socket and picked roses off of my new rose bush my husband bought me for Valentine’s Day.
Whew! By 10 a.m. I was ready for a nap!
We sure don’t have any dull moments over here and I wouldn’t change her sassy, busy, strong-willed personality for a thing. Toddlers are definitely known for testing limits. Here are a few pointers I try to keep in mind throughout my day.
Pick Your Battles Wisely
Does it really make a difference if your toddler wants to wear his Spiderman costume to bed? Does it really matter that my daughter dumped all of her toys on the floor? Not really. Most children go through costume phases and our living room is her toy room. We keep a gate in between our kitchen and living room but when Allison climbs on the kitchen table she is redirected to the living room to play with her toys. Also, playing with electrical sockets is a toddler favorite but a huge, NO NO! Earlier when Allison touched the electrical socket, I said, “oh no, danger!” She smiled and I quickly handed her a book to read instead. Redirecting their attention can save you from a temper tantrum.
Focus on Good Behavior
Look for opportunities to praise your child for good behavior. Positive discipline entails distracting and redirecting. If your toddler won’t stop touching things that aren’t theirs to touch – redirect them to their blocks or books. If your toddler is standing on top of their toy box you can distract them by helping them down and giving them tickles from the tickle monster.
Remember It Isn’t Personal
Your toddler loves you to pieces. Sometimes it may seem like he or she is annoying you on purpose, but the truth is this little person is just exploring and discovering their world. I loved watching the joy come over my daughter when she realized she could throw her toys. I didn’t, however, enjoy watching her throw my phone (remember picking your battles). I took my phone from her but let her toss the toys. Remain patient because children tend to test limits the most with people they feel comfortable around.
Consistency is Key
There is not a “one size fits all” approach to discipline. What works for one person may not work for another. You know your child best, and what they respond to. Use those methods. Keep in mind, toddlers are still learning the way the world works, so be patient and understanding, but above all else, remain consistent.
Good read!