Boys Are Just As Sweet, If Not Sweeter

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When I was pregnant with my first son, people asked, “Is it a girl?”

When I was pregnant with my second son, they said, “You want a girl, right?”

When I was pregnant with my third son, they said, “Oh wow, three boys, you poor thing.”

Please. Just stop.

As a matter of fact, I was hoping the first would be a boy, so if there were a daughter later she would have a BIG brother. During the second pregnancy, I was hoping my son would have a brother to be best friends with. After two easy boy pregnancies, deliveries, and babyhoods, a third boy was a welcome surprise. And I already have a name picked out for the fourth if that is where our lives take us.

I get so irritated when I think about how people specifically asked me if I was having a girl. I shake my head when I hear people say, “I really hope it’s a girl.” And I get annoyed when I hear women say they cried when they found out they were having a BOY … especially when it’s their first child. (I do understand there are pregnancy hormones involved, but still.)

Why do we moms put so much interest and hope into girls? Is it because we are girls? Is it because the clothing section is 4 times larger? Do people just consider girls to be better? I hope not!

Obviously, I don’t have any girls to compare, but I’m here to say …

Little Boys Are Twice As Nice! Here’s Why:

BECAUSE There Are Not As Many Clothes To Choose From

Yes, the dresses and tights and leggings and hair bows and tutus and shoes and jewelry are precious, but that can also get expensive. Pocket the money you would have spent on clothes and accessories, and save it for all the food you will need later in the teenage years (and before they even get to be teenagers).

No Horrible Hormones and Much Less Drama

I remember what it was like to be a teenage girl, and what I put my mother through. NO THANK YOU!

They Protect Their Siblings

I am amazed, even at four years old, how much my older son loves and cares for his brothers.

NO Bra Shopping and No Period Talks

I personally never feel comfortable with that sort of talk, and I feel lucky I won’t need to have these conversations with my boys.

The Groom’s Family Isn’t Traditionally Expected to Pay for Weddings

Weddings are expensive, and it’s nice knowing we don’t HAVE to pay for them. But I do have to say I get a little sad thinking I probably won’t be able to see my husband walk any daughters down the aisle or watch any daddy-daughter dances.

They Love Their Mamas

There must be something to the sayings “Mama’s Boys” and “Daddy’s Girls.”  I am proud to say I have three mama’s boys.

Peeing on Trees

This is absolutely my favorite part of having boys. There have been countless times we have been at the soccer fields and one of my sons just has to pee. Instead of walking the quarter-mile to the restroom (and dragging the other two along), we just have to find the nearest tree!!!!

I am not saying boys are better than girls (or vice versa), or that girls should never be hoped for. I often think how I would love to have a girl, to put her in the cute tutus and pigtails and dance classes. But then I hear about the hormones and drama very early on, and I think maybe I will stick with my three easy-peasy boys.

Let’s just make sure we don’t put baby girls on a higher pedestal than baby boys. And please, think twice before asking expecting moms, “Are you having a GIRL?”

Are you a boy mama? What qualities make you glad you have to have a little fella in your life?

26 COMMENTS

  1. As the mother of a boy (my only one) I will admit to wanting a girl when I was pregnant – but when my son was put in my arms, I fell in love and have never looked back. My son brought me flowers (picked from his grandma’s flower beds – lol!) and told me he wanted to marry me when he grew up. As he grew up, I learned more about the male species than I ever imagined I would from the men in my life (or that I ever thought I wanted to know) I learned as much from my son as I taught him (I hope!) I was a single parent from the time he was 5 until he was 10 so we became each other’s closest family and are still very close – now that he is grown, we still have an amazing and wonderful relationship. He is my greatest protector and fiercest ally. He understands my jokes and gets my sense of humor. He calls me “just because” – now that he lives far away and has his own life. He knows that a call on my birthday is the best gift he can give me. He listens to my advice and sometimes even follows it – but at least he asks for it. He is an amazing young man – I am so proud of him….I am in awe of him and the life he is leading – I taught him to be his own person and he is fearless.

  2. As a mom to 5 boys (my oldest is 4), I love it! I think at this point having a different gender in the house would change a lot, so I am estatic about them all growing up with brothers, and ones close in age. I definitely agree will all the above- especially the tree- what an unexpected blessing that has been! They are more loving and compassionate that I could have imagined, and I love how they love and protect each other. Not a week goes by where I don’t get the girl comments, but I don’t mind showing them what a blessing boys can be. I do fear another fridge is in our future soon!

  3. Having two adult sons, and having lost our first child very early in the pregnancy, and always feeling perhaps a girl… I can say, truthfully that I’m very glad God gave me two boys! HE always knows best! Thank YOU, LORD! At times, I have privately yearned for a daughter too, but know without a doubt, I have the two best sons in the world. They are the ones God gave to my husband and I and they are so dear. Just as it is prayerfully, with every mother (or should be…) Good article, young woman, keep writing your blog and sharing your truths. Very pertinent feelings and observations.

  4. Oh my goodness! I love this post!!! I am currently pregnant with my first baby and it’s a boy!! I love reading posts from moms about being the mom of a boy (or 3 in your case)! I get to learn more about and am more and more at ease. I wasn’t sure at first because I feel like I have NO IDEA how to take care of a little boy. But as long as I love him (which no doubt I will) I feel like this will be much easier than dealing with a girl. Especially if she is anything like me! haha! Thanks for posting this!

  5. I was so nervous about having a little boy because I thought id have no idea what to do with him! I share what I’m interested in with him and I embrace his interests just as much! He’s brought me so much Joy and I can’t imagine life without him! After having a boy, it kind of makes me think life would be easier with another boy, when that happens. Thanks for sharing your mama’s boy sentiments!

  6. I have two girls, and they’re awesome. I have a 7-month-old boy, and he is awesome. The first girl is more girly, the second girl is a lot like me, a tomboy, and we’ll see how my little boy turns out. I’m so excited to be a part of their lives and seeing what each one likes. It’s nothing short of amazing.

  7. I have both girls and boys. Spread over nearly 11 years between the first born and the last. Girls are just so much easier. I love my son, and he is in fact very sweet and loves his mama, but he is so much more work.

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