Often times people think stay-at-home moms have nothing to do. That if we’re at home we must be sitting around on the floor playing Barbies and G.I. Joe, or doing the dishing, or popping bon-bon’s in our mouth while we catch up on the latest soap operas and reality TV. These moms have nothing but time on their hands which means….
“HEY … you can watch my kid for me, can’t you?'”
Ummmm …. no. Just because I’m a stay-at-home mom does not mean I want to watch your child. Here’s why…
While yes, I’m a stay-at-home mom, and yes, I do stay home a majority of the time, it doesn’t mean I don’t have things to do. I’m taking care of my family. I’m raising my kids. I’m not a childcare center. And let me be real here … even if I did have nothing but time on my hands, the last thing I want to do is watch your kid. I don’t even want to watch my own all the time!
I’m not really a kid person.
I LOVE my kids, and I love yours too, but it’s hard dealing with them around the clock. The meltdowns. The tantrums. The struggle of just being kids. Every day I am just trying to keep it all together and I don’t have it in me to add another child to the mix.
You can’t afford me.
There’s a reason childcare costs are so high. Taking care of kids is demanding and exhausting. Lets be real: if you’re wanting to drop your kid off with me it’s because I’m free or cheaper than a daycare center and that’s just not right.
Flat out … I just don’t want to.
I totally understand if you need a favor. We all do. That’s not what I’m talking about. I’m talking about the friend who hits you up ALL THE TIME to watch her little love muffin because she has XYZ to do. And on the flip side, I don’t typically ask people to watch my kids because I’m not in a position to reciprocate.
So please, the next time you think your stay-at-home mom friend is a great option to watch your kid(s) just because she’s doesn’t have a traditional job, consider all these things. Motherhood is hard. The days are long. Sometimes the frustrations outweigh the joy. And sometimes that mama is staying home because she just isn’t up for adding one more thing (or person) to her plate.