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The Day I Said Goodbye to the “Mom” Bathing Suit

Bathing suits.

Did you just shudder? Crazy how one word instills fear in your heart; fear of going shopping for a bathing suit or fear of wearing a bathing suit in public. Or maybe all of the above? 

Since so many women struggle with body image, it’s no surprise that so many women also hate going bathing suit shopping. Myself included. For years I’ve worn the “mom” bathing suit. You know the kind. A full coverage top and a bottom that has a skirt on it. I’ve been covering up as much as I could for quite a long time now. I think only once in my entire life have I ever owned a two-piece (stomach exposed) bathing suit. And that only lasted for one summer. 

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Me in my “mom” bathing suit last summer. Fully covered, of course.

Well, last year I lost 35 pounds so I knew I was going to need to purchase a new (smaller) bathing suit this year. But as I began to think about it I realized I didn’t want to go the same route as always. I didn’t want the “mom” bathing suit anymore. 

A few months back I had a conversation with my husband about this and told him how wearing the “mom” suit makes me feel old. He agreed and said it also made me look old (don’t worry, it was a comment said in love and I wasn’t mad at him). He then proceeded to tell me I should get a two-piece bathing suit. I had actually been thinking more of a “daring” one piece, but if he felt I could pull off a two-piece suit that shows my stomach, then why not? 

I realized I have been hiding behind the “mom” suit for far too long. Do I have the “perfect” body? Absolutely not. I may have recently lost 35 pounds but do I still have hang-ups about my body? Of course. But that doesn’t mean I need to fall into the stigma of only being able to wear the full coverage bathing suit. 

Women are sometimes so consumed by being a mom that we forget to be a woman. We lose our identity in our children and think that’s how it’s supposed to be. But, I want more than that. I don’t want to be hung up on my body anymore and wearing a specific type of bathing suit because I’m a mom. I want to feel like a woman and feel confident and beautiful. No more hiding. Even if it means I expose my “imperfect” body, that’s what I want. 

So, I’ve been strutting my stuff at the pool and the beach the past two months in my new suit and new found confidence. And it’s been great! 

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Sporting my new two-piece bathing suit and loving it!

I decided that as much as I struggle with how my body looks, as unhappy as I may be with it, I just need to let it go. I can’t let my feelings about my body control me anymore. And those feelings of worrying about being judged by others? I’ve said goodbye to those too. You know why? Because no one else really cares. Go to the pool and the beach and take a look at the other people there. Are they looking around and checking to see who is wearing what? No. They are just doing their thing and you should be too. 

I was at the pool the other day and looked around and almost felt sad at how many beautiful moms were there in their “mom” suit. These are women who were skinnier than me and yet had (perhaps) resigned themselves to the status quo of “just being a mom.” 

I want to tell you today to let it all go, fellow moms. Let yourself wear that two-piece suit that shows your belly and enjoy feeling like a beautiful woman again instead of a mom trapped by what society tells you that you should look like. Don’t be worried about what other people think. Just enjoy yourself and be free!

Can you relate? Have you felt trapped by the “mom” suit?

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6 Responses to The Day I Said Goodbye to the “Mom” Bathing Suit

  1. Kaileigh July 9, 2018 at 2:27 pm #

    Thank you for writing this! I have been debating about the mom suit all summer and I took took the plunge for the true two piece . I’m not one to comment on articles but I think the postpartum body image is so tricky to work through. I felt like the article was perfect timing in my life! Getting real about postpartum issues in these articles has be incredibly helpful. I read these articles and it makes me feel less alone and more typical in my experiences as a new mom. Thank you!

    • Leah Stuhler July 10, 2018 at 8:06 am #

      You’re so welcome! I’m glad this piece really resonated with you. Our body image is something we struggle with so much. Especially right after having a baby. But we also need to just take the plunge at some point or we will forever live in a state of thinking our body is not OK. I”m glad you got a two piece! Go strut your stuff this summer! Thanks for reading and commenting!

  2. Alicia July 10, 2018 at 2:32 pm #

    I think some people like the “mom” suit Because it can help keep everything in the proper place so I can run and play with my kids. Wear your suit for yourself. I don’t like to be pulling and tucking all day long as stuff rides up or down.

    • Leah July 11, 2018 at 4:16 pm #

      Yes. You are right. It’s all in what you are comfortable in. I’m just saying that some moms maybe don’t feel like they can wear a two piece when they want to. But yes, we should absolutely wear what you are comfortable in. If that’s a “mom” suit, then so be it. 😊 it’s about what works for you. Thanks for your comment! I love hearing g from our readers.

  3. Sarah July 21, 2018 at 10:17 pm #

    I love this article! Thanks so much h for sharing your open; honest thoughts. Also…I love the swimsuit top so much! Where did you find it?!

    • Leah Stuhler July 22, 2018 at 11:40 am #

      I’m glad this piece resonated with you! Thank you for your comment. I got the bathing suit at Target, of course! My happy place!

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