Am I Doing This All Wrong?

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Am I Doing This All Wrong - Columbia SC Moms BlogDo you ever feel like you are absolutely drowning in your own life?

Like, even though you chose to be a stay-at-home mom, it is really really hard … harder than you ever expected and you wonder if you made the right choice. Then, when you think on it a little longer you know you made the right choice, but you also just feel like you’re out there floundering. Am I doing this all wrong?

Since becoming a mom almost a year and a half ago, I have to say I seem to feel like that a lot. I wouldn’t change a thing. I love being home with our daughter, but sometimes it is so hard. I feel like I spend my day herding a toddler, washing dishes, preparing food, and spending money that I don’t make. And I feel guilty when I slog through the laundry or complain about my day being long, because while other people were out there working hard outside the home, I was home. Am I doing this all wrong?

Sometimes I see these other moms, you know the ones I’m talking about. These moms who look amazing … they have shiny, clean hair, beautiful makeup and are dressed as though they are about to spend the day popping in and out of boutiques. I’ll be honest … when I see them I am amazed … a little jealous even. It’s like they have it all together and here I am, a year and a half later having put effort into my “look” for my Target run and I catch a glimpse of myself and realize that despite my best efforts … I look like a hot mess. Am I doing this all wrong?

I know these people are good moms because I know them. I know their children. These women are rock stars, but they make me question myself. Am I doing this all wrong?

How do you do it? How do you get out the door looking like a movie star with your adorable baby dressed in her smocked outfit with her bow just right … while I’m over here pouring sweat (because it is South Carolina and it is about a thousand degrees) with frizzy hair and makeup that looks non-existent? Am I doing this all wrong?

How is it that each day you have a creative activity prepared for your eager toddler, while I’m standing by with my toddler just trying to get her to color ON THE PAPER ONLY? Am I doing this all wrong?

How is it that you manage to volunteer or chair a committee with the Junior League? How is it that you have a fresh manicure AND a clean, beautifully decorated house? Am I doing this all wrong?

In the midst of all of this questioning, when I feel like I’ve lost myself, someone asks me how I do it. Someone asks me how I make it look so easy. Someone asks me how I am able to still be me, keep my identity. And after I pick my jaw up off the floor … I wonder if we’re all looking at each other thinking the same thing. Am I doing this all wrong?

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Elizabeth Sheehan
Elizabeth is a Georgia peach who moved to Columbia after earning her Bachelor of Arts degree in Art History from Wofford College. Former Marketing Specialist for a South Carolina law firm, Elizabeth is now a stay-at-home mom and works as a buyer and blogger for her family’s antique business, McIntosh Cottage Antiques. Elizabeth and her husband, Adam, welcomed their daughter, Chandler, on January 22, 2015. Motherhood has been the most exciting, difficult, fun, and challenging job she has ever had. In her spare time, Elizabeth bakes cheesecakes for her business, Keep Your Fork Cheesecakes, and writes for her personal blog, Just Frivolous. She loves to read, write, workout, garden, shop, and cook.

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